What Makes This Retreat Different

• No pressure to share trauma
• No forced vulnerability
• Nervous system–led pacing
• Strong respect for autonomy and boundaries
• Safety as the primary outcome

This retreat is for you if you:

• Feel highly sensitive and easily overwhelmed by environments or relationships
• Long for deeper, more conscious connection
• Are tired of pushing yourself past your limits
• Want to strengthen boundaries without isolating yourself
• Are in a life transition and need space to recalibrate
• Are a leader, facilitator, caregiver, or thoughtful human who gives a lot
• Sense that softness is strength, not weakness

Day 1 — Arrival & Safety “I am allowed to arrive slowly.”
Grounding, orientation, nervous system settling
Focus:

• Creating safety in the body
• Getting familiar with the space
• No expectations, no depth yet

Practices:

• Gentle arrival ritual (naming needs, time zones, body states)
• Somatic orientation: noticing support (floor, water, air, warmth)
• Soft movement or floating (very slow, optional)
• Silence windows + early rest

Day 2 — Being Held by the Body & Nature “I don’t have to try. My body knows.”
Self-holding, softness, regulation
Focus:

• Rest as medicine
• Listening to the nervous system
• Learning what softness feels like

Practices:

• Guided rest / yoga nidra / body scanning
• Water or thermal immersion (supported, optional)
• Nature walk with sensory awareness
• Simple nourishment practices (food, warmth, sleep)

Day 3 — Being Held in Relationship “I can meet without losing myself.”
Trust, attunement, safe togetherness
Focus:

• Exploring connection without demand
• Nervous system alignment
• Boundaries as safety

Practices:

• Paired or triad exercises (choice-based)
• Eye contact, back-to-back support, co-regulation
• Practicing “yes,” “no,” and “not now”
• Group rest or shared silence

Day 4 — Integration & Re-Entry “I can take this with me.”
Integration, clarity, continuation
Focus:

• Anchoring safety for everyday life
• Choosing environments and relationships wisely
• Gentle future visioning

Practices:

• Personal safety map (what supports me, what doesn’t)
• Micro-practices for daily regulation
• Closing ritual: being witnessed without feedback
• Slow departure, no rush

Location: Napmajor Tanya
Price: €650 total per person

While being able to work in different methods of therapy, my focus is to find the most appropriate process with each client. My goals is to create a safe, supportive space to deepen understanding of self, heal emotional patterns, and regain balance.

Through gentle, evidence-based methods, we explore what’s behind stress, anxiety, or dissatisfaction - helping clients reconnect with the inner strength, confidence, and sense of direction. I am open to offer short-term therapy and solution-based approaches.

For more serious issues, like significant life changing events and healing traumas, soft and gradual process may be more appropriate to ensure support on a long-term basis. I encourage my clients to become acknowledged with Therapy Contract, so it can provide more structure for the effective collaboration.

If you are a new client, this is what you need to know: 
• Offline session - 60 min, online - up to 75 min. 
• I offer a free introduction Zoom call to see how is the connection and answer any questions
• Cancellation is free with 24 hours advance notice.
• The pricing of the session will be based on average rate typical for your geographical region (usually in the range from 60-100 euros per session). If you are experiencing financial issues, please talk to me, and it is possible that we can find a solution.
• There is a possibility to buy a package of 5 or 10 sessions at a reduced rate. Please inquire separately.

A practical, inspiring space to grow, set clear goals, and bring your vision to life.
Through mindful coaching and psychological insight, you’ll strengthen focus, confidence, and emotional resilience — turning intention into real, lasting change.

What methods do I use in coaching?

• Various coaching methods and tools oriented on results
• Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) elements like life history and reframing
• Systemic Constellations method of Bert Hellinger
• Psychodiagnostic tools (MBTI, SDI, Leadership Circle, Human Design)
• Embodiment exercises to develop self-assurance and confidence in working with intensive emotional states.

Here are several of situations where I work successfully:

• Taking a new role in the organization, expansion of responsibilities, which means a need to gain new skills (like conflict management, emotion control of others, formulation of the position in critical situations)
• Making of presentations, speeches, trainings, facilitation works
• Defining own duties, goals, strong sides and barriers; realization of meaning of your practice, professional and life mission
• Burn-out and loss of interest in your work/ career
• Defining life and professional goals: working with purpose and vision

If you are a new client, this is what you need to know:
• Offline session - 60 min, online - up to 75 min.
• I offer a free introduction Zoom call to see how is the connection and answer any questions
• Cancellation is free with 24 hours advance notice.
• The pricing of the session will be based on average rate typical for your geographical region (usually in the range from 60-100 euros per session). If you are experiencing financial issues, please talk to me, and it is possible that we can find a solution.
• There is a possibility to buy a package of 5 or 10 sessions at a reduced rate. Please inquire separately.

While working with couples, I mainly use the Emotionally-Focused Therapy approach. This is a gentle, research-based process that helps partners reconnect, rebuild trust, and feel close again.

EFT focuses on emotions — not blame — helping partners to understand each other’s needs, move beyond recurring conflicts, and create a more secure, loving bond.

To be exact, EFT is a clinical method based on well-constructed explanation theory, and confirmed by plenty of research in different areas of psychology (developmental psychology, social psychology, personality psychology, neurobiology).

This therapy type suits you in case:

• If you find yourself often in conflict with your partner;
• If you had some traumatic experiences in your past that make you feel guilty or distant from your partner, and you think about separation;
• If you want to know yourself and your partner better, and to connect on deeper levels;
• There is distrust and/or possible affairs;
• You experience issues in sexual life;
• You simply want to improve your relationship.

If you are a new client, this is what you need to know:
• Session lasts 75-90 min.
• I offer a free introduction Zoom call to see how is the connection and answer any questions.
• Cancellation is free with 24 hours advance notice.
• The pricing of the session will be based on average rate typical for your geographical region (usually in the range from 80-120 euros per session). If you are experiencing financial issues, please talk to me, and it is possible that we can find a solution.
• There is a possibility to buy a package of 5 or 10 sessions at a reduced rate. Please inquire separately.

Your body holds stories your mind may have forgotten.
This approach helps you release tension, reconnect with sensations, and process emotions through the body — not just through words.

TANZU Method + Process-Oriented Therapy
This work is not about “fixing,” but about creating space for your system to reorganize naturally — allowing new possibilities, clarity, and resilience to emerge.

During the session we may work with:

• body awareness and subtle movement
• breath and nervous system regulation
• tracking sensations and emotional signals
• exploring inner processes and emerging insights
• restoring a sense of safety, grounding, and flow

Can support you if you are experiencing:

• stress, anxiety, or emotional overwhelm
• burnout or chronic tension
• difficulty processing emotions
• life transitions or inner conflict
• desire for deeper connection with yourself

Session duration: 60–75 minutes
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Transformation often happens in connection — when we share stories, reflect, and simply be together.
My group programs and retreats offer space for renewal, awareness, and authentic connection, supported by mindfulness, embodiment, and gentle guidance.
For those who wish to recharge, reconnect, and return to themselves — in an atmosphere of warmth, curiosity, and presence.

As the time goes by, I constantly come up with a shorter and longer retreat programs that take place in Budapest and its surroundings, or in Corfu, Greece. Typically I offer body-oriented events in the beauty and the silence of nature.

If you are interested to know about upcoming programs, which are not listed here, please drop me a note by e-mail and I will include you into the information lists. 

In the coming months, I will be designing and offering a series of online programs dedicated to personal development, emotional wellbeing, and meaningful life change. These spaces are created to support deeper self-understanding, growth, and connection in both personal and professional life.

Upcoming topics will include:

Emotional Intelligence in Everyday Life — developing awareness and skills to navigate emotions with clarity and resilience across different situations.

Living a Fulfilling Life — exploring purpose, values, and practical ways to create a life that feels meaningful and aligned.

Women’s Therapy Groups — supportive spaces focused on building authentic relationships, cultivating love and friendship, and strengthening professional connections.

Therapy Group Inspired by Women Who Run With the Wolves by Clarissa Pinkola Estés — a guided group journey exploring feminine psychology, inner wisdom, creativity, and personal transformation through the themes of this profound work.

If you are interested in participating in any of these programs, I warmly invite you to get in touch by email to receive updates and registration details.

Additionally, in the coming weeks I will be offering a free 4-week online course, “How to Live Your Dreams,” designed to help you reconnect with your aspirations and begin taking meaningful steps toward them.

I look forward to welcoming you.

Why are we attracted to people, with whom often the relationships happen to be painful and unsuccessful? Possibly these questions do not apply to many successful marriages.

Possibly, some of you will find this article obvious or contradictory, but I would say in advance, I am not presenting the "one and only truth" of life. This is the knowledge from my experience and work with clients.
So, magnificent Hollywood shows us that the main goal of successful life is finding your "second half". After this meeting we would suddenly become happy and fulfill the life purpose. These relationships (in movies always romantic ones) are the magic pill. However, if you did not form a perfect relationship, it means there is something wrong with you, or your life is wrong. A typical example of this can be seen in the film "Bridgit Jones' Diary". The comments about Bridget’s personal life by her relatives and society are either judgment and pity, or irony, which is in fact the same thing — the disapproval. Also, it is implied that if you managed to find love, then love should overcome all difficulties (well, it is supposed to be like that, otherwise it is not real love).

However, I would argue that we were a little misled by how much power was given to the romantic and sexual feelings. Life experience and studies indicate that they do not guarantee and necessarily lead to secure long-term relationships. Why? Possibly because we are not always attracted to people with whom we share similar values, needs and life purpose, or with whom it is simply comfortable to share the household. As such, those components are key to the secure loving relationships.

But who attracts us then? We are attracted to people, who represent the qualities and provide sensations, which we understand as "love". But how do we know what is love?

First experience of love came from our parents and from our early environment. We cannot talk or understand the words yes, but we already know how it feels to be loved. It is recorded in our unconscious from very early ages, because we are born with the need to love and be loved. These first experiences will influence our further interpretations of love (might be even for the whole life, if we do not work specifically to correct it).

So what is the result? If in childhood we were lacking attention and love, our mother used to leave us alone, then we felt afraid and sad but interpreted this as parental love. That’s why unconsciously we will look for such patterns in our partners, even if consciously it seems crazy. If we are again and again unconsciously attracted to people, who leave us without attention, who break emotional links during difficult moments, then there is a big chance to receive re-traumatization of the wounds. In this case the relationship will be like a ship in a storm. There is love and attachment, and also there is insecurity of contact, sometimes unbearable soul pain.

Another question is why our partners are not able to stay with us in times we need. Most probably, they also have scenarios, making them run and rescue themselves. Because the parent did not respect his or her personal boundaries in childhood and demanded certain behavior. At that time, the child used to dive into his own inner world in order to feel secure, because it was difficult to escape physically.

So if you find yourself in the relationships, where you see similar patterns of behaviors, and despite love, you feel insecure sometimes, which also means constant stress, then it is a good reason to start exploring and working on childhood patterns, if both partners have resources and possibilities to do. In cases you have mutual aims, dreams and wishes in the relationships, they will help with pain and difficulties in life, and then, probably, it is called a compatible relationship.

We all had situations in our life when someone acted towards us unfairly, without care or even aggressively, not considering that their words or actions may hurt us.

And what happens to us? It is possible that we were able to express our emotions at that moment, defend ourselves, try to restore the balance and respect between us, but maybe it did not happen. In that case, when moments later we become aware of own helplessness, we start replaying that situation again and again for days, months or years. Just a slight reminder of that specific situation or person turns on the wave of variety feelings from anger to sadness, which exhaust us.

Therefore, it is so important to learn to forgive. Often the word "forgiveness" brings up the image of Jesus and Mother Theresa, which are far from our reality, and usually they make forgiveness seem so difficult.

What to do in such a situation? First of all, you need to understand that forgiving is not a black and white result, which means it is not described as "all or nothing", "win or lose". Forgiving is the process, which can happen slowly and over a long period of time. Moreover, any advancement in the direction of deeper understanding of yourself, of situation, and acceptance of them is already a great achievement.

The most important thing in this journey — is not stop, but to continue doing small steps, and celebrating any progress. Let’s say that today you reach 60% forgiveness, which sounds like "I understand you and even sorry that you had to act like that", and 40% "I am still not sure if I can find inner ability to forget and let the situation go". These are wonderful results already. From this point on, I can ask myself: "What else can I do to move forward on the forgiveness path?" Because, first if all, it is important for me. When I walk this path, I give myself access to my talents, inspiration, inner freedom, joy and love.

This usually results in romantic love, although this type of romantic love differs very much from Shakespear’s view and reality.

What characteristics does modern romantic love have? Firstly, a huge amount of energy, which falls on you unexpectedly: you feel yourself complete, divine, and have a strong connection to your partner, and possible to the whole world around you. In a state of romantic love, we, as usual, also idealize the object of our love, attribute to him or her illusionary characteristics, which do not always match with the reality. And of course, in this state sexual connection only enhances our feelings and illusions. Even if there was a conflict, sex brings back peace, reconciliation, takes away dissatisfactions and disappointments. During this stage sexual attraction works on its own, no need to put any efforts in order to feel sexual energy. It becomes like a pain killer for all wounds and pains in a relationship, and also provides hope for the future. Hope that it will be all different and new this time, hope that this uplifting feeling will last forever.

What happens next?
After 18−36 months our hormonal system stops to arouse from small triggers, instead we get some kind of physiological and biological habituation, and the level of excitement decreases. Basically our nature turns off a magnetic mechanism which was connecting us at the beginning. It is bad news, but there are good ones as well.

Emotional bond
By compensating the loss, we gain another mechanism — attachment. It is an emotional bond, which forms in 12−18 months, and is more secure than sexual attraction. Emotional bond is when partners get to know each other, find common values, have positive experiences together, even if conflict arises, there is enough motivation to restore the harmony. As time goes by, such bonds become stronger, due to the fact that nature finds it crucial to have secure connections to prolong the existence of humans. But it is not all easy.

In these times it can happen that sexual attraction weakens, illusions and hopes regarding partner crash, and it is not as easy to restore the connection through sex as before. Moreover, over the period there might be big arguments, offenses or dissatisfactions, which are hard to resolve, and in some cases they can lead to emotional traumas.

As a result, relationships become emotionally insecure and partners may start to distance. It is not simple on your own to become aware of what is happening with us, because everything comes at once from all the directions: children, work, relations with others, and fatigue.

When I do not feel well and do not know the reason for my emotional disturbance, it is easier to blame the other for the wrong behavior. I cannot understand what is happening with me, and this helplessness pushes me to conflicts, demands or to distance from my partner. In both scenarios, insecurity increases, which means emotional bond weakens as well. Often we may fail to notice this for years. However, what we notice is that we have low attraction to the partner, reluctance to body contact. At this moment the easiest thing is to decide that absence of sex is the actual problem in itself and needs to be solved. But it seems hard or even impossible to solve it only physiologically.
While working with couples, I help them to find out the reasons for distancing. We gently unpack offenses and traumas, which are still in our body memory. This defense mechanism prevents us from getting close to the source of traumatization — our partner. We learn to create emotional bonds again, which results in the re-awakening body connection as well. It is biologically proven that sexual attraction between two loving partners can last at least 18 years, the period for maturing of children. It means in most marriages there is a hope for satisfactory sexual life for many years.

The article is inspired by the book "Hold my tight" by Sue Johnson. Highly recommended.